Word Games Abusers Play

  • Interrupts you when you’re talking.

  • Repeats “your exact words” but takes them out of context or makes up something that you did not say or mean.

  • Challenges you to remember “exact words” but you can’t (or tells you you’re wrong) because the conversation is so confusing you don’t know exactly what he’s talking about anymore.

  • Changes the subject to divert your attention.

  • Tells you what you really mean to say.

  • Drones on for hours, repeating the same points, getting nowhere, until you’re so exhausted you want to agree just to get them to be quiet (brainwashing).

  • Re-defines words to mean what he or she wants them to mean.

  • Denies saying what they said (even if you’re playing it back to him from a digital recorder, they may deny meaning what they obviously meant).

  • Uses tricks like abusive anger to get you to be quiet or listen.

Extracted from: Things Abusers Say and Do to Gain Power Over You